This week’s blog is dedicated to the mother of the bride ( or groom) and the all important question of what to wear or not to wear on your son/daughter’s special day. I’ll mainly focus on the mother of the bride in this blog, but if you are the groom’s mother, similar considerations will apply. Ok, so, of course there are no clear-cut rules as such, but I hope by the end of my blog you’ll have some clear pointers to help you make good choices so that you’ll be celebrating the day in absolute style, and most importantly, you’ll be able to really enjoy the occasion.
1. DO Liaise with the bride and groom
First step is to get a general idea on what kind of wedding the happy couple are looking at as this may affect what you wear on the big day. Once the bride and groom’s themes and colours are decided, you can work around that. Don’t forget to also chat to the groom’s mother-imagine the embarrassment it you both ended up wearing the same outfit….and it actually looked better on her!
2. DON’T choose something you aren’t too keen on AND feel uncomfortable in
When choosing your outfit, make sure you don’t just choose something because that’s what you think your daughter and family members would expect you or want you to wear. It’s a long day so not only do you need to look great, but you also need to feel good in what you’re in. Comfort and style is the ideal combination.
3. DO wear something that is NOT going to clash with the bridal parties’ colours and themes
Whilst there are no hard and fast rules here, try to avoid totally clashing with the bride , groom, bridesmaids and groom’s mother. Aim instead for ‘harmonising’ and coordinating so that you look the part on the day and in the wedding photos; this can be achieved by liaison with the other members of the wedding party or, if you’re extra close, even shopping together!
4. DON’T be afraid to show off your personal style
You are the mother of the bride, so you will also be one of the centrepieces on the big day. As a result, it’s important that you wear something that reflects the real YOU and your true style.There’s no need to go for a frumpy look-think style, flair with a splash of glamour and you’ll have the perfect look.
5. DO shop for shoes that are quite simple and comfortable, yet stylish
It’s a very tiring day so it’s important to look after your feet on the big day but you need to balance out the comfort factor with the style factor. This can be achieved by selecting the right sized heels-avoid stilettos that kill your feet-kitten heels can be a good alternative, for example. For more info on shoes, check out previous blogs of mine on the topic here and here. If your outfit is in a bright tone, opt for neutral or nude toned shoes. If your outfit is quite subdued, you can afford to go brighter in the shoe dept. The same principle can be applied to accessories.
6. DON’T wear colours or patterns that won’t look good in photographs
You will be photographed a lot on the big day, so it’s important to bear this in mind when selecting colours or patterns in your outfit. Avoid wearing very washed out colours where possible; deeper tones generally photograph better. If a deeper hue is not for you, consider a deeper tone for contrast in your accessories instead. Need a hat for the wedding? Check out my previous hat blog here to give you some ideas.
7. DO have a contingency plan if the weather is not good
No need to change your entire outfit, of course, but just have a stylish brolly and jacket or little shrug at hand should you need it.
8. DO dress to be noticed but DON’T upstage the bride on her big day
Need I say more here ?!
If you are going to be the mother of the bride or groom this year, I’d love to hear from you. How are you feeling? Have you got your outfit sorted yet? Are you stressed about it or easing into the concept nicely ?
Need help at all? Just give me a call.
In the meantime, happy wedding styling!